CHAT FORUMS/MESSAGE BOARDS: TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING? PART II
I've been hitting up the boards the past few weeks in order to get a
sense of what general themes/concepts I could glean from my on-line
surfing.
What I found surprising is the polar opposite issue which I discussed
in my last post: I've found the "oh my god I love/adore your wedding
dress/bridesmaid dress/ceremony decor/wedding theme, etc. etc. etc."
statements run rampant on the boards. So my question is: how do you
know when a poster is being honest?
And honestly, should you even care?
In a sense, I guess some brides are trying to get opinions and honest
feedback from hopefully impartial observers. Makes sense, I guess. But
is this really the place to get honest feedback?
One can argue that people are shielded by their anonymous screen
names, and people will speak freely. Sometimes, as Megan indicated in
her comment, TOO freely (Megan, I think that is so crass from the
poster who made that comment to you - amazingly classless).
However, for people who use these boards frequently, posters seem to
"get to know" others in the same thread. There's a constant
back-and-forth, and it seems that many of these women become on-line
friends--which sometimes translates into "meet and greets" for those
constant communicators -- whether it be at a neighborhood bar, or at
someone's home (I'll get to that in my next post). With that kind of
constant communication, I imagine it must be hard to do anything but
be overly encouraging.
I think that the "ooohs" and the "aahhhhs" on these boards are
frankly, a little bit tiresome. While I think it's great for brides to
get honest feedback (in a classy manner), it seems like the boards
have become more of a "pat on the back" type of forum than a place to
get real advice.
Maybe it's an unfair assessment, but I found that dose of sugary sweet
commentary to be a bit tedius.
There HAS to be a happy medium between obnoxious, in-your-face honesty
posts and overly congratulatory ones.
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